"I'd rather be excit

"I'd rather be excited about making millions than worrying about not getting a raise." ~Robert Kiyosaki

Yesterday I received

Yesterday I received an email from a guy who expressed interest in getting to know me and possibly going out for a date. He complimented me on my picture and asked me if I was taken (even though I had single on my profile) because it was not a site specifically for dating. The email was quite refreshing until I got to the end of the email and he ended the exchange with "You are one sexy MF!" Now, that's not the exact wording because I'm trying to be respectful of those reading, but you get the point of the phrasing. At the moment that I read that sentence, two things ran through my mind. First, I figured that he either didn't read my profile all the way because he would have known not to come at me like that. Second, he gave me more proof that the younger generation is getting increasingly disrespectful to women. This guy was below the age of 25, and as much as I try not to discriminate against young men who are anti-stereotypical of most men in the dating scene (not in jail, educated, no children), I seem to run into the ones who have quite an ego when it comes to their marketability towards women. Many seem to have a sense of entitlement and they can treat women like lap dogs because they fit the build of a rare find aka a BMW (black man working). In the year of 2010, he is among several men that have decided to "catch" me that way and all have been under the age of 25 years old. Can it be their upbringing? Can it be the music (e.g. Lil Wayne)? Can it be the social culture that we are seeing that are capturing our younger generation at an alarming rate? I am no video vixen by any means and I refuse to lower myself to that level to release myself from "singledom." Out of desperation, I'm sure many women will respond to men like him hoping that he will be respectful in the future. In that same mentality, she will excuse it away, saying that's just something that men say to express the intensity of their attraction. I'm not buying into it. A man will either have to come correct at me or not at all. I'm not an MF. I'm not a B. I'm not a Ho. I'm not a Nigga. Pass it on….

So when the Saints..

So when the Saints... go marching win.... So when the Saints... LOL! PS - The screaming chickens are hilarious!!!

I vote Taylor Swift

I vote Taylor Swift and Kanye for next year's Super Bowl halftime... anyone?... ANYONE??? LOL!!!

What is up with thes

What is up with these underwear-themed commercials???

Ebony & Ivory - The Essence of History?

Everyone looks at the reaction to the covers of Ebony and Essence and not the underlying problem. Yes, Essence advertised "black love" and had a man who didn't embody that quality gracing the cover and yes, Kimora Lee is half black, so she technically belongs on Ebony's cover. A bigger picture is in play here, though. There is a historical stigma attached to interracial relationships. It is usually more acceptable for a white man to engage in a relationship with a black woman because of the history of white men engaging black women behind the scenes plantation-wise. Black men were torn from their families, therefore the logic stands that once they were able to return and engage their beloved black women, they would not want any other race given the traumatic experience black men have endured during slavery. Black women as a result feel rejected because of black men that choose "the enemy" over them considering the struggle they have had to go through, which is psychologically the mindset of those who are angry to this day when a white woman is seen with a successful black man. We often forget the years of programming that blacks have been accustomed to and blame it on jealousy, further damaging the black woman's image. We can see the opposite reaction in the Tiger Woods story, where there was a survey taken by ABC viewers over who was the worst behaved celebrity in 2009. Over a celebrity who beat up his girlfriend and was charged with a crime in court, Tiger Woods was chosen as the worst behaved. Is it any wonder why black women are cautious but deemed paranoid when their country sees a black man who cheated on his white wife as worse behaved than a black man who beat his black girlfriend? Forget the reasoning behind PR and brand management and damage control. There is a message we're sending out to America's black women - and that is that "she" still has a ways to go.

Beat, Don't Cheat

There's something that I have been itching to say for the longest, but because of the controversy between all of my friends during the presidential campaign, I've tried to be neutral about this subject. Now, I've had a burst of my nonchalant mood and I can't hold it in any longer. Most of us have heard one way or another about the Tiger Woods scandal and have commented in secret or on postings or in public vocally. One thing most people keep dancing around concerning this subject is the "race thing." I would never mention it if I hadn't heard this with my own ears and seen on television with my own eyes. Towards the end of the year, ABC Nightline did a survey of the worst behaved celebrities of 2009. Included were the likes of Tiger Woods, the balloon boy, Letterman and Chris Brown. One cheated on his wife, one lied about endangering children, one had sex with many of his staff and the other beat his girlfriend to a pulp. Imagine my horror when the survey came back that Tiger was the worst behaved celebrity who didn't go to jail and Chris was not, the one who is on probation for what he has done. Additionally, Letterman, who did the same thing as Tiger, wasn't even tied. Deciding to place the two black men behaving badly side by side, I thought two things. One, the nation that voted basically is saying that it's ok to beat your girlfriend as long as you don't cheat. Two, over the last few years athletes and celebrities have cheated with women of their own race and there was never any big problem until Tiger crossed that precious line. Most of us can agree we're tired of hearing about it, but it's strange that it gets more airtime than most scandals out there. Historically, we who know the relations of interracial dating have been frowned upon if not violently protested can see that Tiger placed himself in a world of trouble just by marrying woman of another color in the public eye. He was ok, until he got greedy and decided to replicate his sexual preference into secretly dating over a dozen of the same. Remember, this was a national survey, even if this was done tongue in cheek. What is really funny is that I can find video of all of the segments of the awards show on ABC except for that one segment concerning Tiger. That is something to wonder about. Bottom line, are we telling our children that it's ok to beat our black women and it's not ok to cheat with and on white women? I'm just saying, that's what it looks like… Hmmm… What do you think? If you would like to see the youtube version of the celeb misbehaving award, click below: (The segment in question starts at 5:25) http://htxt.it/W4d1