Yesterday I received an email from a guy who expressed interest in getting to know me and possibly going out for a date. He complimented me on my picture and asked me if I was taken (even though I had single on my profile) because it was not a site specifically for dating. The email was quite refreshing until I got to the end of the email and he ended the exchange with "You are one sexy MF!" Now, that's not the exact wording because I'm trying to be respectful of those reading, but you get the point of the phrasing. At the moment that I read that sentence, two things ran through my mind. First, I figured that he either didn't read my profile all the way because he would have known not to come at me like that. Second, he gave me more proof that the younger generation is getting increasingly disrespectful to women. This guy was below the age of 25, and as much as I try not to discriminate against young men who are anti-stereotypical of most men in the dating scene (not in jail, educated, no children), I seem to run into the ones who have quite an ego when it comes to their marketability towards women. Many seem to have a sense of entitlement and they can treat women like lap dogs because they fit the build of a rare find aka a BMW (black man working). In the year of 2010, he is among several men that have decided to "catch" me that way and all have been under the age of 25 years old. Can it be their upbringing? Can it be the music (e.g. Lil Wayne)? Can it be the social culture that we are seeing that are capturing our younger generation at an alarming rate? I am no video vixen by any means and I refuse to lower myself to that level to release myself from "singledom." Out of desperation, I'm sure many women will respond to men like him hoping that he will be respectful in the future. In that same mentality, she will excuse it away, saying that's just something that men say to express the intensity of their attraction. I'm not buying into it. A man will either have to come correct at me or not at all. I'm not an MF. I'm not a B. I'm not a Ho. I'm not a Nigga. Pass it on….
Monday, March 8, 2010
Yesterday I received
Yesterday I received an email from a guy who expressed interest in getting to know me and possibly going out for a date. He complimented me on my picture and asked me if I was taken (even though I had single on my profile) because it was not a site specifically for dating. The email was quite refreshing until I got to the end of the email and he ended the exchange with "You are one sexy MF!" Now, that's not the exact wording because I'm trying to be respectful of those reading, but you get the point of the phrasing. At the moment that I read that sentence, two things ran through my mind. First, I figured that he either didn't read my profile all the way because he would have known not to come at me like that. Second, he gave me more proof that the younger generation is getting increasingly disrespectful to women. This guy was below the age of 25, and as much as I try not to discriminate against young men who are anti-stereotypical of most men in the dating scene (not in jail, educated, no children), I seem to run into the ones who have quite an ego when it comes to their marketability towards women. Many seem to have a sense of entitlement and they can treat women like lap dogs because they fit the build of a rare find aka a BMW (black man working). In the year of 2010, he is among several men that have decided to "catch" me that way and all have been under the age of 25 years old. Can it be their upbringing? Can it be the music (e.g. Lil Wayne)? Can it be the social culture that we are seeing that are capturing our younger generation at an alarming rate? I am no video vixen by any means and I refuse to lower myself to that level to release myself from "singledom." Out of desperation, I'm sure many women will respond to men like him hoping that he will be respectful in the future. In that same mentality, she will excuse it away, saying that's just something that men say to express the intensity of their attraction. I'm not buying into it. A man will either have to come correct at me or not at all. I'm not an MF. I'm not a B. I'm not a Ho. I'm not a Nigga. Pass it on….
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